Lifestyle aspiring Indian girls married abroad

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Our decision is final, said Col. Kapoor firmly, if you want to do a PhD in the U.S., we will find a suitable boy who lived there. Marry and you can go. Shruti, her oldest daughter was horrified. I could not believe that in this day and age, his parents, who had always considered liberal, who happen to be so conservative. It was his dream to join a Ph.D. in one of the leading universities United States. In addition, excellent results M. Sc said he had a good chance of getting a scholarship. Surprisingly, his parents, who had always been very supportive of their ambitions and aspirations, which now seemed inflexible and implacable. She was so both too young and naive to understand the fears I had about sending his beloved son alone in a strange land, advanced and unknown, which would have no one to call their own.

My dream, he sighed Radha, is going to marry an NRI (nonresident Indians). Radha, a certified public accountant for 24 years, had always been in awe of the West. Europe and the U.S. were their final destinations, not just to visit as a tourist, but to live and feel that he belonged to nations other than their own country.

Neha Aggarwal, a graduate college students pursuing a secretarial course, was on the threshold of marriage. In his family, an NRI was the maximum catch, and he stood head and shoulders above any degree of work in India.

These three young women, intelligent, accomplished and intelligent, had one thing in common. Marrying an NRI seemed inevitable that the only way to fulfilling their dreams. India's mentality is such that people are convinced that the. Brightest and most intelligent men always head to the West, where you can appreciate his intellect and material reward welfare, economic security when added to the brand value associated with living abroad, the dream becomes every parent for his daughter.

But it is as simple as getting married in India, and the life abroad for a walk Not really, as the contrast between the lifestyles in India and other countries is too much to be taken lightly. Girls who aspire to marry abroad must make a conscious effort to change your current lifestyle according to the requirements of the future.

NRI or non-resident Indians are the compatriots who have stepped beyond the Indian territory in search of a job, build a career, or start a business. Whatever the task, working abroad certainly means more money, greater recognition of the talent and the dignity of work, excellent working environment with immense job satisfaction, success comes much more quickly than anywhere in India. They pay a dollar or euro helps pay good lifestyle is also a consideration. Great villas, luxury apartments, the latest cars, vacations at sea are covered for a short period of time. Best choice for a generation that likes to work hard and play hard. In India, they have a new kind of respect, open doors for them, and turn heads with a look of astonishment and admiration of all.

This may seem like a bed of roses, but it comes with a lot of thorns. The other side of getting married abroad can be a traumatic experience for the young to the harsh realities outside to look at them after they leave India.

The first step is to meet a single overseas, and the fans enough to say yes to a long-term commitment called marriage. Men who live abroad have spent many years alone, the establishment of careers without any family support or comfort. Succumb to family pressures to marry, but have clear ideas about what they would like in a life partner.

The Indian system of marriage is very different from the West. While marriages are held the love, arranged marriages are more common. A marriage of convenience that means that parents try to find right partners for their children on the basis of the family, position and education. It is an ancient belief that children with similar family background and comparable economic situation is likely to have a successful married relationship. Also, be conservative Indian society, until recently, did not give children the freedom to move about socially where I could get a chance to meet the right partners. Parents are very strict with their daughters, they rarely were allowed to socialize without escort. Naturally, this means that the likelihood of young people meeting potential life partners was very low. The task of finding a life partner has been the prerogative of parents and family, and matchmaking across an interesting task. This generations-old tradition is also based on the common belief that children are too naive and immature to decide who would be a good life partner for them, and therefore, the task should be handled by mature elders. Initially, the boy and the girl in question was not asked, even if they did not like the person chosen by them. Over the years this has changed, and the boy and girl meet and even go out together, much like the west. As a friend says, people around the world, meet, fall in love and decide to marry in India, the boy and girl meet, marry and then fall in love! Marriage is serious business in India, and considered a lifetime commitment. Divorce and separation are frowned upon and even the courts try to resolve the problems of civil strife to preserve the relationship and to restore normalcy in the family. This is the reason for the parents the choice of future partners of the marriage of their children.

The fate of an NRI is exactly the same. Once you succumb to parental pressure and agrees to comply with the brides, the boy's parents to list some girls whose family background has been reviewed and qualities of the girls, personality and habits of measured through mutual friends or acquaintances. They seem to have fixed ideas about an ideal daughter-in-law, and the fervent hope that his son was to choose one of the girls liked it. The son, in turn, has an image of a couple who has a bit of the elegance of one or Susan Jane in her workplace, but also features a robust set of Indian stock, which can run a house hot india it, cook exotic Indian food and Western or Eastern, to coddle their work only to think, and it has nothing to do once he gets home. They should also be educated to blend into your social circle and not a misfit. She should be able to fend for itself instead of relying on him for everything. Men in India, often feel that everything they say or do, they must be accepted and appreciated, even, but never questioned. While non-resident Indians have learned to do household chores, but once married, they want to sneak out of the mundane tasks, but essential.

Choosing a life partner is difficult, especially because today is not enough that the girl is presentable. In order to assess their attitudes and perspectives, and to see if it can be compatible, India and abroad want to meet girl time and again. His behavior and his behavior will help you decide whether or not it fits into your life abroad. The girl, meanwhile, takes his time to see if the man is thoughtful, friendly and attentive or a sexist, arrogant about their success, and singularly lacking in the ability to respect others, especially women . Many young Indians are tied at the foot of his mother throughout his life, and therefore are not able to see the talent and qualities of other women. These attitudes often change when they live abroad where the company offers much more respect for women. Marriage for Indian men is also a deep commitment, therefore, the NRI is striving to raise awareness of the bride with the hard life and the tasks ahead in India, you may have never met. Living in India under the protection of parents is a totally different experience. India is home, your comfort zone, familiar and friendly, and seemingly safe. Parents indulge and pamper, assist and advise in all, always protect their children from difficulties and tensions.

Therefore, when the goal is to marry someone living abroad, it is best to prepare in advance, to know how west, and therefore be prepared to handle a different life in an unknown location. The conclusion is that life is hard abroad, which means more hard work. One would have to be efficient in household chores and domestic service is a rarity, restricted only to an elite group of people. India is one of the few countries where national aid is given. Time management is an active and efficient management of all tasks is essential, as there is plenty to do. Shopping, cooking and cleaning to remove snow from the driveway, mowing the lawn, and the list goes on ... This is compounded by the fact that the immigrant feels lost and alone in an environment that does not emanate heat, and the city seems almost deserted, as populations are not in India levels. Above all, the ladies in question are in a new relationship, even knowing their husbands.

It would be beneficial for each of these girls to acquire skills such as driving so they can be independent. In the Indian system few can afford a car for every family member, the use of drivers is a prerogative of the elite and middle class are a family of a single car with men most of the time. The girls on the threshold of marriage must also read and collect information on social norms in different countries, be knowledgeable about Western society, and even acquire some knowledge of languages, who knows when the knowledge of another language can be useful. Internet brings a world of information at your fingertips, and you have to search around to be well informed. Knowledge is the key to greater confidence makes you more confident and dignified in their conduct, and society is more receptive and warm to these people.

In terms of appearance, it is important to merge with people, rather than stand out as a foreigner. Girls also can try different types of cuisines and develop a taste for Indian food is not. Most Indians find unpleasant continental cuisine and vegetarian options are not your type either. Should be developed a taste for different foods to not face an embarrassing situation at a party unable to eat anything. The girls do not have the habit of taking responsibility for full kitchen, which restricts their culinary experiments for a single exotic preparation. Most mothers are responsible for the daily food staple in the homes of India, which include multiple preparations. Under his watchful eye, the girls can meet a number of useful tips that make every meal delicious.

In the case of Shruti, she has to grow out of the mold student to focus only on the study. She has to get used to the idea of ??marrying, sharing your life, take responsibility for a home, be a wife and a student at the same time and, above all, learn enough of the U.S. Western influences have been introduced in Indian society, but many unknown facts fell apart when deepens. Your task in the universities, admissions and scholarships will be focused on where you base your future husband. She has to work outside the emotional attachment to his family, to be able to come and go. A part of your daily schedule established during discussions with their parents, is to plan a daily meal and put it in front of his family. Her father has decided to give driving lessons to himself and useful tips on money management.

Radha and Neha need to do the same. Both belong to smaller cities and less exposed to Western influences. A simple life and his relaxed attitude would be changed if we wish to marry abroad. Exposure to non-Indian food and the way they dress, etiquette and table, good command in English, the art of polite conversation, even in a crowd of strangers rather than sitting quietly in a corner, the appropriate behavior in public places are some of the things they need to learn. Being able to walk gracefully, with an air of confidence will take time and practice. This will please their partners and life beyond the house became much more fun, at the prospect of a reprimand every time out and do things right. Neha realizes he has to take aerobics classes to lose weight and tone your body. Radha feels the need to learn western dance so you can join the crowd where there is music and dancing.

Getting married abroad has been a happy experience for thousands and a nightmare for many others. Girls should learn to handle difficult situations. Beyond India, every young person is an anonymous entity, very few know where it goes and what it does, certainly not to his family in India. If the girl's family does not do enough research, the life of the child faces the risk of being ruined. Some young indigenous men have married foreigners, but to keep their families back home in the dark. They lack the courage to tell her parents the truth and carry on, without realizing that it would ruin the life of an innocent child. They feel they can continue this charade for long double, but the truth inevitably stumbles out. The worst gets the girl in question.

Men often profess own businesses, while in reality they are used for menial jobs. Thus, a bartender says owning a restaurant, a seller becomes the owner of a chain of stores. Torture and abuse of innocent children are horror stories. Caution and thorough investigation becomes the key to avoiding the agony. The stresses and strains of survival in Western society wreak havoc on the men too, who, unable to vent their frustration elsewhere, resort to abusive behavior and the young wife is on the receiving end . Moving from one economy to another level also leads to behavioral changes in men.

Times have changed and the gap between India and the West has been reduced. Each generation has a more Western lifestyle, and if the people passing beyond the Indian shores, they are able to retain a little of our own culture, our mix of Indian values ??system with the Western style of thinking, its objectives and aspirations will undoubtedly positive and happiness would be well within reach.